The Everyday Adventure: An Invitation.

I love being in bigger cities but sometimes it takes me a minute to understand how they people who live their operate. Like how the people in LAX don’t really look at you when you pass. Being from a friendly farm town in the Midwest, we say hello to people we don’t even know. So not even looking at each other is always hard for me to get used to. I always feel like an amateur in the city because I don’t know how to follow their rules and walk to their beat.

This time, I decided to just stop worrying about it.

I looked people in the eyes for a little longer than normal.


He walked away and then came back. The man with white hair, hobbling behind a luggage cart. He sat two seats away, wearing a loose suit and eyeglasses on a chain.

His name was Henry. He's 73. He’s originally from Sweden but has lived in LA for 50 years.

“Man needs purpose,” he explained. “Those that have one live longer.”

This kind of talk is my JAM.

He went on to tell me that his father died shortly after he lost his purpose. I thought about my own life, how I felt like I was wondering aimlessly. I’d written just the day before that I came to California looking for vision, and here’s a man in an airport talking about the importance of purpose.

Life is funny.

He went on to tell me about the famous people he drives around now, now that he's retired from his job that didn't pay much but he loved. He talked about Keifer Sutherland, and how he drove him around for 5 years. He shared that most Hollywood people were snooty, like it was a secret, and that he’d been married for almost 50 years.

He shook my hand and said I was a nice person. Before he left to pick up some big-time producer, he brought his hands together and gave a small bow.

And all I could think was...

Look people in the eye for a little longer than normal. In a world where people barely look up, where eyes are glued to whatever is in their hands and ears are occupied with something apparently more interesting than conversation, dare to look at people. Make eye contact. Smile. It's an invitation.

Everyone in the world has something to say and a story to tell. People are looking for connection. And I just want to live my life as an invitation.



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